If you’ve read my last article, 10 Ways to Turn a Woman Off, then you may be curious about what turns a woman on. So I’ve put together a list for you guys on what it is that turns us on. Use this to spark the flame or reignite it in your relationship or future relationships.
1. Listen. This is number one for a reason. When a woman can tell that you’re actually paying attention to what she has to say (as opposed to nodding every now and then while staring at the TV), it’s a turn on. Women, on average, are mentally stimulated easier than men and so it should come as no surprise that we like it when you use your brain. If you’re able to come up with the name of a friend we’ve mentioned or remember a story we told you, you’ll earn a few points in our book.
2. Groom Yourself. Remember how a big turn off is a bad hygiene? Well, getting rid of that unibrow and taking a shower will go a long way if you’re looking to turn a girl on. You don’t have to be metrosexual but you do have to put forth a little effort. And think about this – if having a wild bushman beard makes us hesitate to go in for a kiss, just imagine what having a wild bush down below will make us hesitate on. Manscaping is your friend.
3. Leave a Little Mystery. This is not to say that you should withhold vital information from your woman. Things like being on parole, having kids or anything involving sexually transmitted diseases should probably be shared with your partner, but feel free to keep the story of the biggest shit you ever shat to yourself. Also, it’s kind of sexy to learn new and interesting things as dating goes on, so dole out the awesomeness that is you a bit at a time.
4. Touch the Small of Our Back. Simple as that. It’s a huge erogenous zone for many of us ladies, and a light touch as you follow us through a door or around a corner can send shivers up and down our spine. This will stick with us until we can get you alone.
5. Use a Little Force. No, I’m not telling you to smack someone around – unless that’s how she likes it. What I am saying is that a little passion is a wonderful thing. Press us up against a wall as we make out or give us a little push down onto the bed. Hell, just holding us tightly can get us going. Not all girls will enjoy this sort of thing but you might be surprised at just how many are wishing for it on a nightly basis.
6. Surprise Us. Everyone likes a little gift now and then and of course women are no exception. You don’t have to buy fancy jewelry to get on our good side; sometimes it really is the thought that counts. A guy recently brought me over some Cheez-Its and beer and I was so excited that I literally jumped into his arms. I had mentioned (once) my slight addiction to those little crackers and the fact that he remembered my favorite flavor and thought to bring some over really was a bit of a turn on. Cheez-Its can do that to a girl.
7. Be Nice to Kids and/or Animals. For some reason, watching you joke around with our little brother or bond with our dog will warm the shackles of our heart. I don’t know if it’s a biological clock thing or simply because it’s cute, but when we see you being sweet to a kid or an animal, it makes us want to be sweet to you.
8. Check Us Out. During one of my best dates, I caught the guy giving me a full body check out as soon as we met up. I called him out on it and we had a good laugh, but when he told me how he couldn’t help it because I was looking so good, he was in. Knowing that the effort I put into looking nice was appreciated was a great way to start the date and made me warm up to him even faster.
9. Show Some Creativity. Plan a date that doesn’t involve a couch and a movie, or take us someplace we’ve never been. Really, any new experience you can give a woman will stick out in her mind and help her want to have some more.
10. Be Yourself. None of this will get you anywhere if it’s insincere. If you’re not comfortable with any of these ideas then figure out what works for you and go with that. The last thing you want to do is put up a false front, because we’ll eventually figure it out and you’ll be out on your ass before you know it.
Disclaimer: as with the last list, this one is not complete. Every woman is different and what works for some will not work for others. Also, there are obviously lots of sexual things that turn us on but that topic is so broad it’s best to explore a woman yourself to find out what works best for her. After all, that’s half the fun!